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There's an idiom in Chinese, that when translated to English means "Paying back a man in his own coin." For example, if someone treats you kindly, treat him with kindness, and if they treat you badly in some way, it may be necessary and/or beneficial to the situation to return the favor—just so.
I have heard something attributed to Arabic culture that a man should choose his enemies wisely because he will eventually become just like them. Meaning that a person inevitably feels forced to use the same tactics as his enemy in order to protect himself, but in doing so loses those qualities within himself he may have been trying to safeguard from his attacker. Cutting off one's nose to spite his face.
Originally posted by Sifu Stier
Sifu Stier's post starts off with a disclaimer about his post being his humble opinion. Why shouldn't this be taken at face value? Is it discarded because of past interpretations by forum members of sarcasm on his part, and the previous use of phrases like "...my humble (but correct) opinion..." ? Does that bit of his personality incite you? Get under your skin?
Originally posted by Sifu Stier
I find the statement "the best strategy for combat is no strategy at all" to be profound and easy to understand. I think it fits perfectly with the Tai-Chi Chuan classic that, "If my opponent does not move, I do not move. If he moves slightly, I have already moved." Both statements indicate that the attacker, either because of an ambush and/or because he is the only one with an intention against the other person, does set the pace for the fight. Having "no strategy" means having no prejudices that can inhibit your complete freedom of action, and no prejudices, whether physical, emotional, or mental (you may substitute the word attitude for prejudice if you like) that can be used by your attacker to his advantage. It certainly does not mean that the concept of strategy should be absent from one's martial arts training. There has been nothing I have read from Sifu Stier to suggest that such a fundamental element is absent from his training or his teaching. My assumption is based on the premise of all of his posts to date.
Originally posted by Sifu Stier
Even with Sifu Stier’s breadth and depth of knowledge and experience, he repeats himself quite a bit. Repetition is part of learning. Time and again Sifu Stier’s statements are well-accepted or left unchallenged at one time and criticized at another time by the same people who did not feel a need to respond previously. And what I have observed consistently is that usually those who are challenging and criticizing his posts are doing so in a very narrow-minded fashion, as though there is no larger premise for interpretation based on numerous other posts by or about him. The questioning by Sifu Barnett of Sifu Stier’s short post in this thread without considering what I have pointed out, but apparently focusing narrowly and only on current negative feelings toward Sifu Stier, is a prime example.
But where do these negative feelings come from? Everyone currently in conflict with Sifu Stier has also praised him, if not recently, then in-between posts critical of him. And yet you question his popping into and out of threads like he was the only person whose consistency could be questioned? That last sentence was a red-herring, an intentional misstatement of the larger truth. There is no breach of consistency in either case.
In the past, when things were good, you did not criticize Sifu Stier. It is illogical to say, online or in person, "Excuse me, I'd like to say at this juncture that I have no criticism to offer. Thank you." However, Sifu Santer invalidated this logic in a very childish way when he made public the fact that he and other Shaolin Wahnam Instructors had been criticizing Sifu Stier. It is one thing to discuss a person's statements on a relevant topic in a private setting, but it is improper to make this fact public. Is there any other intention that can be inferred other than Sifu Santer wanted to humiliate Sifu Stier and give the green light to other forum members that he was fair game for more potshots?
Originally posted by Marcus
We're all prone to mistakes and speaking in the heat of the moment, but the above quote by Sifu Santer was the second time he attempted to publicly humiliate Sifu Stier by stating in public that he and other Shaolin Wahnam Instructors had been sniggering behind his back, and Sifu Santer seemed genuinely proud of it! This kind of post is a crystal clear invitation to others to join in the attack, gang upon, and get your licks in while the time is ripe.
Originally posted by Marcus
Besides the offenses against logic and forum etiquette already mentioned, you also committed a prominent rhetorical error, Sifu Marcus. You referred to hearsay as though it were fact, attempting to corroborate something as yet unsubstantiated. Other members of the forum do not know what you and the other Shaolin Wahnam Instructors said about Sifu Stier behind his back. We are not privy to those conversations, which is why they should have been kept private. Even if it what you said were true (I am not trying to imply that you lied), it also does not establish fact. On the one hand, majority opinion is often correct, and even Sifu Stier has said words to the effect that the opinions of a majority of informed, experienced, and successful practitioners of a style are more valid than the opinion of one person who is not experienced and proven successful over time. But, on the other hand, history has shown that very often individuals who are lone dissenters and completely out of step with majority opinion, are in fact those with the courage to make great strides forward and see what others can not. Sifu Wong has repeated this, in one form or another, many times in reference to people willing to speak out about the therapeutic value of qigong and Chinese Medicine. So, majority opinion can be wrong, and lone dissenters can be quacks. They cancel out in general terms and must only be considered on a case by case basis. If in fact you were criticizing Sifu Stier with a group of other Shaolin Wahnam Instructors who have nothing better to do than talk about Sifu Stier and how wrong he is, it doesn’t prove anything, except that you were extremely impolite to reveal this fact on the forum, and I believe the fact you were so proud of it shows that something was affecting your normal sense of courtesy.
What is it about Sifu Stier that instigates you (plural) so? You can show exquisite, truly admirable tolerance and genuine concern for people like Kin Tama (BTW, there's a movie called Golden Balls) and Tom L, but Sifu Stier gets your goat regularly. Why?
Why do you so frequently misunderstand his statements? Another example being the notion that he threatened Kevin or Sifu Santer. When Sifu Korahais responded to Sifu Stier offering to "'Cross Hands' in a Gong-Sau contest" with Sifu Santer, Sifu Korahais suggested, rather suddenly, that he might pay Sifu Stier a visit in Sifu Santer's stead. Apparently, Sifu Korahais forgot that Sifu Stier has invited all comers, on many, many occasions on this forum, to visit his kwoon and test his martial skill at any time they wish. A standing, open, non-threatening, but instead, fact-substantiating invitation has been presented many times on this forum by Sifu Stier. In the context of this longstanding invitation, it seems a double misinterpretation to infer what he said to Sifu Santer as a threat. It is obviously part of Sifu Stier's kungfu cultural background to be willing to demonstrate his martial ability, which he restated: "Then...in the time honored tradition of the Chinese Martial Arts...".
I believe both parties involved are familiar with traditions of Chinese Martial Arts. Why jump to conclusions? I think it's because at some times you wish to interpret Sifu Stier's posts in a much more negative way than they were intended, and without regard to the larger picture of so many previous posts that were interpreted more accurately, or at least more neutrally.
Regarding Kevin's posts and the responses they received, I encourage everyone to express themselves on this forum, even when afraid of making mistakes, and Kevin is no exception. I am glad he is expressing himself, although I am not trying to say that I am at some higher position than him that I can look down and smile in a patronizing way.
Looking at the previous exchanges between Kevin and Sifu Stier, there is an obvious dislike for Sifu Stier by Kevin. The many lengthy personal attacks he has made so ridiculously and venomously against Sifu Stier and, to the shock and dismay of us all, against Sifu Stier's family, demonstrate exactly how prejudiced Kevin is in reading Sifu Stier's posts. And yet several of you congratulated Kevin for his recent comments, which I agree were much more polite (only because they couldn't have possibly been any more offensive than on previous occasions! Nowhere to go but up) than before, but the underlying message had not changed. Perhaps you disagree? So be it. What is much more important is the obvious pattern shown in this thread. Sifus Barnett and Korahais made their criticisms of Sifu Stier in an obvious way that gave Kevin, a person with a repeated history of outrageous verbal attacks against Sifu Stier, the incentive to attack once again. Sifus Barnett and Korahais, knowingly or not, chummed the water with the inevitable result being the sharks would circle and come in for the meal. And then you congratulated Kevin for toning things down??? How could he not tone it down? Where else could he go? How many Shaolin Wahnam Instructors need to praise Kevin in this situation? What message are you sending? I agree people deserve credit for expressing themselves appropriately on the forum. This is valid in all cases, and also in this case. I was also glad to see Kevin expressing himself and posting, but the situation is tainted. Anyway, that last part of the story worked out well because, in spite of previous conflict, Sifu Stier addressed Kevin directly and kindly.
Best wishes,
Michael
A little more sadness and you'll be good as new!
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