Hi Paul,
We did meet briefly, at a Summer Camp kungfu course.
If the frequency of your fights has gone done, that's good, and congratulations. Likewise, I have no problems with you wanting to be a powerful fighter - unless there's ego in that desire, which is the crux of all this.
What I’m saying is that, if you work on 2 without working on 1, number 2 will just become about your ego. 1 is the ego problem, 2 is being able to defend yourself. Solve the ego problem, and suddenly you stop bringing a part of your ego to your training.
Without letting go of this ego, you’ll be approaching training, girls, and life in general with this blockage – which is part of what I mean when I say that you don’t have to be nasty or angry to attract fights. What if it’s this blockage that’s attracting the fights?
You won’t truly feel safe in your life, no matter how much you work on 2, if you don’t work on 1. In fact, once you’ve worked on 1, you might find you don’t need to work anymore on 2.
Now, to answer your question about how to go about this, I would start by asking you whether you give devotion to any particular deity, or give homage to Kuan Yin? If so, pray to them, surrender and give this to them, ask them to take it from you.
Also, is it me or does this seem to be revolving around the issue of girls? If there were no girls involved in this, would the situation be much different? In which case, maybe the blockage is to do with girls, meeting girls, and being around girls (and men at the same time).
The difference being that a true, true master will not have ego.
True, but if I had to choose between open heart and supreme combat ability, I would choose open heart. Open heart is your option no 1, supreme combat ability is your option no 2.
We did meet briefly, at a Summer Camp kungfu course.
If the frequency of your fights has gone done, that's good, and congratulations. Likewise, I have no problems with you wanting to be a powerful fighter - unless there's ego in that desire, which is the crux of all this.
But what can I do about this? How do I change it?
It seemed to me to come down to 3 choices:
1. Change this perception / mindset so that I don't get in fights, that people don't seek to fight me.
2. Become as proficient as I could at fighting, at repelling those who would attack me.
3. Work on both 1 and 2.
I chose to work on both. I had some success at number 2, though I want more, but I have not much success at number 1.
It seemed to me to come down to 3 choices:
1. Change this perception / mindset so that I don't get in fights, that people don't seek to fight me.
2. Become as proficient as I could at fighting, at repelling those who would attack me.
3. Work on both 1 and 2.
I chose to work on both. I had some success at number 2, though I want more, but I have not much success at number 1.
Without letting go of this ego, you’ll be approaching training, girls, and life in general with this blockage – which is part of what I mean when I say that you don’t have to be nasty or angry to attract fights. What if it’s this blockage that’s attracting the fights?
You won’t truly feel safe in your life, no matter how much you work on 2, if you don’t work on 1. In fact, once you’ve worked on 1, you might find you don’t need to work anymore on 2.
Now, to answer your question about how to go about this, I would start by asking you whether you give devotion to any particular deity, or give homage to Kuan Yin? If so, pray to them, surrender and give this to them, ask them to take it from you.
Also, is it me or does this seem to be revolving around the issue of girls? If there were no girls involved in this, would the situation be much different? In which case, maybe the blockage is to do with girls, meeting girls, and being around girls (and men at the same time).
I believe Sigung Ho and other masters I've heard of have been in fights where they had to fight a dozen or even 20 people, and the Master's mashed them. Why did they not just change their mindset so this didn't happen? It wasn't their mindset that saved them, it was having the combat ability to beat 20 men.
I meant that if you have supreme combat ability, then even if you get in a fight you can defend yourself successfully without hurting anyone. Furthermore this confidence will radiate I believe and discourage would be attackers, none of who actually want a fight they just want an easy target to beat up.
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